Sometimes you have to give a little to get a little. What I mean by this is that sometimes you have to sway your beliefs, compromise, put in extra effort, etc. in order to get the response or results you are looking for. If you can’t get the results you’re looking for it’s still possible to get a compromised result that makes everyone happy. In this article I am going to give you a brief summary of how this applies to different types of relationships and give you some tips and advice to help make this behavior easier for you to accomplish.
When you are in a relationship with another person, whether it’s a friend, family, or partner there will be times that you don’t see exactly eye to eye. Most failures occur when two people will neither one will back down and they hold onto their opinions and beliefs with stubbornness. The truth is that if you want to get something out of the other person you are going to have to give up a little ground. A constant pushing for things to be done your way is not a healthy scenario and in the long-term will fail. This is especially true in partner relationships. Whether it’s a girlfriend/boyfriend, spouse, or lover you will have to build up your relationship in order for it to last a long time. You can’t do this by always giving in or always getting your way. Ask anyone who has been in a long term relationship how important “compromise” is.
Family disagreements happen all the time. They happen so much that you might even consider them to be a normal part of your working relationships. If you can manage to meet them in the middle you may end up with some much closer family ties. It could be as simple as a small argument with your brother or a long-term grudge you or another family member is holding on to one another. Give them a little ground to work with and in return they will give you some back. It’s not worth all the stress and frustration just to hold onto something that might seem small later on. Think back years ago at things you and another person disagreed on. How many of them would still hold value today?
Friends / Co-Workers
If you want to make life easier for you in general this is a definite must. Anytime you and a friend or co-worker disagree it could mean trouble on down the road if you leave it unresolved. Now people may not always agree with everything, but you can always agree to disagree. Coming to terms with people you aren’t close to will make all of your friendships last longer and your workplace much more enjoyable environment. Remember, it’s not about always giving in to the other person, but more like a 50/50 situation. You give sometimes a little more and sometimes they give a little more. Pick your battles wisely. If it’s not really that important to you give in a little more. If it is important give in a little less. It’s that simple. 🙂
How Can I Give A Little More?
Giving a little doesn’t mean that you give up on all your beliefs and ideas just to make another person happy. There is a middle area where you can come to terms and maybe they will give in to you or sometimes you will give into them. Just because you give in every once in a while doesn’t mean that you are a weak person. It means that you have an open mind and you want to expand your thoughts and ideas by listening to what other people have to say and think. Now for some of us an ego might get in the way of making this happen in every situation. That is where you have to learn to set yourself aside and really listen and focus to what the other person has to say. Try to put yourself in their shoes or where they are and really feel what they are saying. If you still disagree then maybe validate their points like “I can see your point” or “I will consider that option.” When you don’t see their point or consider what they say chances are they won’t be doing the same for you.
Tips & Advice
- Put Yourself In The Others Persons Shoes
- Think Before You Speak
- Put Your Ego Away
- Don’t Always Give In
- If You Are Disagreeing Alot Walk Away And Come Back Later
- Find Your Middle Ground
- Pick Your Battles Wisely
- Be Open Minded
- Stay In The Present and Avoid Thinking/Comparing to the Past
If you learn to give in sometimes and give a little ground life will become much easier and drama free. Don’t leave arguments laying on the table for long periods of time. They will only build up stress and the back of your mind and cause you hardships later on down the road. Once you master this personal development skill you will be that much more skilled to handle yourself in life’s situations.