When you have a family, your self-improvement does not stop with just
you- your children and your spouse become a big part of you. It’s
important to find the harmony in your family relationship in order to
improve your overall self worth. Furthermore, for those looking for love,
self-improvement often goes hand in hand with self-respect. The below
tips are meant for both those looking for love and those looking to resolidify
and strengthen their relationship in order to improve their life
fulfilment and their self importance.
1. Go out and have fun- if you are looking to meet someone, you have
to put yourself out there. Do the things you love to do- dancing,
visiting art galleries, seeing sports games, and/or going to movies. If
you emerge yourself in your hobbies and make the effort to talk to
those around you, then you will have a much better chance on not
only meeting someone, but also finding someone with the same
interests as you.
2. Bring sexy back- in order to look good on the outside, you need to
feel great on the inside. However, that doesn’t mean you have to
neglect your exterior! For the ladies out there- schedule a pampering
day where you can get your nails done, your legs waxed and your face
exfoliated. Treat yourself to a cute outfit and strut your stuff. For the
men out there, choose an outfit that is casual cool, gel back that hair
and drizzle on your sexiest cologne.
3. Respect yourself- and others will follow. If you treat your body,
mind and soul poorly, then others will as well. Don’t let the opposite
sex walk all over you. Stand proud and respect your body and your
choices. Self-respect is one of the biggest obstacles to overcome on
the road to self-improvement.
4. Be on the lookout for love- for those who lack confidence, mingling,
flirting and dating can be a nightmare. However, retreating back to
your shell is not going to be any better. You need to push past those
fears and go out and mingle.
5. Don’t take it all to heart- there are good dates, and then there are
bad dates. If you let those bad dates get to you, then you will never
be able to enjoy those good dates again. Laugh about those awkward
pauses and inappropriate comments. Don’t take it personally. Take it
in stride and remember that every bad date just brings you one step
closer to that perfect one.
6. Get naked! – This is a great self-improvement tip for both singles
and couples. All you singleton’s out there, you need to really love your
body in order to feel comfortable. So get naked and jump in front of
that mirror- focus on things you love about your body and how you
can enhance your best assets. For couples, getting naked and feeling
sexual is an extremely important part of any healthy relationship.
7. Give and receive- relationships are never one sided, or at least they
shouldn’t be. You need to be prepared to give, receive and
compromise on almost every aspect of your life. This means you will
have to give up some things and limit that selfish behaviour. Letting
someone else into your life is an important step towards selfimprovement.
8. Make a date and keep it! – Many couples have trouble finding time
for one another, which can lead to a big strain on their relationship,
physically and emotionally. This, in turn, can lead to a feeling of
failure and a loss of self worth. So what’s the cure? Easy- make time
for one another. Set a certain time every day to spend together. This
could be as simple as going for a brief walk, a coffee in the morning,
or an uninterrupted dinner at night. Make the date, and keep it, no
9. Communicate- you’ve heard it before. Communication is vital for
any strong relationship. Improve your relationship and your selfunderstanding
by opening up, letting go and talking about what’s on
your mind. It can be incredibly therapeutic. Share work stories,
discuss movies, admit your feelings- open your mouth and talk.
However, it’s equally important to listen as well!
9. Schedule singles (or alone) nights as well- too much together time
can actually lead to a strain in your relationship and cause you to lose
touch with your inner self. Make sure you still do alone activities as
well as activities together. Go fishing with the boys or plan a Wine
Wednesday with the ladies. Don’t lose touch with that independent
streak that makes you, well, you.
10. Eat dinner together- for most families, eating every meal together
can be impossible. The kids have school, you have work and it’s just
not going to happen. However, scheduling a sit down dinner every
night is a great way to reconnect and recharge as a family -no
television, no telephone and no text messaging. This will improve your
relationships with your kids and your spouse and keep you all
connected to what’s going on in your independent lives.
11. Discover the power of touch- touch is an incredibly powerful sense,
especially when it is used to express love. A mother’s touch is
soothing for a child and a husband’s touch can be sensual and
romantic. Improve your family relationships by giving plenty of
cuddles, kisses and family hugs.
12. Be more than a parent- many parents have trouble improving
themselves when they see their children struggling. This is why you
need to be both their Mom or Dad, and their teacher. Let them know
you are there for them. Help them with schoolwork, work on their
spelling and play reading games with them. When your child is having
trouble in school, then so are you.
13. Choose hobbies that everyone can enjoy- families who laugh
together, stay together. Make sure you involve all members of your
family in activities. Camping, picnics, boating and fishing can be fun
for the whole family. When you are spending more time doing
activities alone than with your family, then this can lead to a
disconnection and discontent. Reconnect and improve these
14. Travel together- family vacations are a great way to break out of
that dull pattern and see the world through someone else’s eyes.
Furthermore, for couples, taking a vacation somewhere out of the
ordinary can bring back that spark that may have fizzled out.
Discovering the sights and re-discovering each other in a foreign
setting can be sexy and exciting.
15. Share the responsibility- Mom shouldn’t always be in charge of
cooking and cleaning. Make sure everyone helps out, including Dad.
Split up the chores so that the kids are helping with the dishes and so
Dad is helping with laundry. This can take the household stresses
away from Mom, help teach the children about responsibility and bring
the family closer together.
16. The little things make all the difference- flowers to let her know you
are thinking about her, a small chocolate treat for a great game of
soccer, and a goofy text message just to say hello all put a smile on
their faces and help strengthen those ever-important relationships.